Is It Love?

How far would you go for the ones you love? What moral laws would you be willing to break? What covenants would you violate? What promises would you abandon?

The problem with "heroic"-though-immoral actions is that the would-be hero often fails to consider the lives of other people he might be damaging. He fails to consider the consequences outside of himself and the one he loves. So then, is it really love? In my mind, pure love does what is best for the person at hand without violating another person (especially uninvolved and without blame in the affair,) in the process. If a person gives someone he loves a gift, is that gift not tarnished if he stole it from someone else? Or is it all about the gift itself, and what he had to do to get it; or the apparent need for the gift, with no regard to other people involved?

From a recent encounter I have come to decide that a gift, if given at the expense of another, is no gift of love. It is a gift of thoughtlessnes and even selfishness. A gift that cannot be properly earned is no gift at all, but a demonstration of gratified pride.

I have seen someone wronged for these very reasons. I don't even like the person. But the wrong-doer, acting out of so-called love, did more damage to these people than good for the ones he loves. His actions were immoral; love should never be an excuse for the hurt of another, or I say that it is not love.